Cluttebuck’s Seven Conversations identifies three phases of reflection (Clutterbuck 2011). The role of reflection can help me as a coach stay away from acting in an advisory or fix and tell approach. I must remember to think about reflection from three different points in the coaching process.
- Reflection before coaching for both coach / coachee.
- Reflection during the coaching dialogue, including the coach’s internal conversation, spoken conversation and the coachees internal conversation.
- Reflection after the coaching conversation for both coach / coachee
Questions that are beneficial for the coach to reflect on before a coaching conversation include: What themes stand out? What are the client’s dominant stories / narrative? What do I notice about myself and my feelings when I work with my client?
Questions that are beneficial for the client to reflect on before a coaching conversation include: What stands out as most important from the last session? What themes are coming up? What feelings are emerging? What could you share with your coach that may be valuable for tracking?
Questions to think about during the conversation: How might someone else view this? If you could get on the balcony of your life what would you see? Is there another vantage point you haven’t considered?
Reflections after the coaching conversation for the coach could include: What did I do that was effective? What did I learn about myself as a coach? What made me uncomfortable?